Helen Marjorie McIntosh
A lifetime resident of the Dunbar area, Helen Marjorie McIntosh
passed away at the Winchester District Memorial Hospital on Saturday,
December 10, 2005. She was 81.
Helen was born into the Barkley family at home in Elma on November
26, 1924. She was the second child and eldest daughter of Stanley
and Blanche (nee Froats) Barkley. Her parents belonged to the
United Church in Elma, where Helen was baptized and later confirmed.
Stanley and Blanche raised Helen on the family farm together with
her older brother, the late Emerson Barkley, her younger sister
Vaughn, and late brother Dalton.
Helen completed public school in Elma, and then went straight
to work on the farm. Helen was a hard-worker, not only did she
help with the chores at home, but she also helped bring in wood
and sap from the bush. In her spare time, she worked as a waitress
in a little restaurant in Williamsburg and she also did housekeeping
for people when they needed extra assistance. It was at the restaurant
in Williamsburg that she met Douglas McIntosh, a farmer from Winchester
Springs, whom she married on October 26, 1944. After the wedding,
the two continued farming together in Dunbar where Helen resided
until she passed.
Helen was a very active woman and in addition to working on the
farm she picked apples in season, did housecleaning for people,
put in a huge garden, did canning and preserving, made pies and
jams, and made quilts for her family.
In November of 1957, Helen and Doug joined St. Luke's Lutheran
Church in Dunbar and since then she has been an active member.
Helen always made certain that both she and the children faithfully
attended worship and Sunday school, which her daughters Marie
and Betty taught for a while. She will be sadly missed by her
Lutheran family because she was a tireless worker not only at
home for her family, but for her church, and her community, as
well. She was a woman whose deep inner strength and physical endurance
was matched only by her spiritual stamina.
Helen knew how to have fun. She was full of fun young at
heart a real joy to be around. When she was 60 years old
she was still climbing around on the monkey bars. She was determined
to live life to the fullest, and always according to her own set
of standards and values. But, for all her fun-loving joy of living,
she was always ready when help was needed.
During one of the most difficult periods of her life, she cared
for her husband Doug, whose farming days came to an end when he
developed Alzheimer's disease. For many years she looked after
Doug at home, with the help of her children and church family,
and many friends and neighbors. Following Doug's death in 1997,
Helen remained at home on the farm in Dunbar and continued to
be an active member of her Church and community in addition to
being a devoted mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother.
In addition to her home and church activities, Helen was also
an active member of the Dundas Rebekah Lodge # 387 for over 42
years, where she served as chaplain.
Helen is survived by her children Marie (Adrian) Barkley-Vingerhoeds
of R.R.# 2 Chesterville, Betty McIntosh of Orleans, and Allan
(Connie) McIntosh of Ottawa, her sister Vaughn (Reg) Burd of Berwick,
her grandchildren Naomi, Mark, Julie, Mike, Pam, Jeff, Kristie,
and great-grandchildren Nathan, Rheann, Kyle, Madeline, Jessica,
Dredann, Britney, Spencer, and Simon. She was predeceased by her
parents Stanley and Blanche (nee Froats) Barkley and brothers
Emerson and Dalton. She is also survived by nieces and nephews.
Friends called at the Marsden and McLaughlin Funeral Home in Williamsburg,
on Tuesday, December 12 from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 pm. A Rebekah Lodge
service was held on Tuesday evening at 8:45 pm. The funeral service
was held at St. Luke's Lutheran Church in Dunbar, on Wednesday,
December 14 at 11 am. Interment followed at Maple Ridge Cemetery
in Chesterville.
Pallbearers were Allan McIntosh, Jeff Armstrong, Mike Barkley,
Mark Barkley, Steven Burd, and Blake Henderson. Honorary pallbearers
were Reg Burd and Bert Geertsma.
Donations to the Heart and Stroke Foundation or Winchester District
Memorial Hospital would be appreciated by the family.